Cross-cultural adoption : how to answer questions from family, friends, and community
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Table of Contents:
- Introduction
- The questions kids ask: What does adopted mean?
- Where is she from?
- Why did they go all the way over there to adopt a child?
- Who are her "real" parents?
- Why didn't her "real" parents want her?
- Was she abandoned?
- Why does she look different?
- Is she my real cousin?
- Where was she before she was adopted?
- Why didn't they just have one of their own?
- Why are there so many little girls, and not as many boys?
- Did she have a different name when she was born?
- How much did they pay for her?
- Will she be able to understand me and speak English?
- What if they want to give her back?
- What if she wants to leave them and go back to her birth parents?
- Will she remember where she is from or who her birth parents were?
- Won't she feel sad when she finds out she's adopted?
- Do's and don'ts for grown-ups
- Do: treat her like any other kid
- Support her when curious strangers ask questions
- Respect her privacy
- Treat prospective adoptive parents the same as expectant parents
- Acknowledge and celebrate the differences
- Please don't: Don't introduce her as adopted
- Don't say how lucky she is
- Don't assume adoption is a second choice
- Don't jump to conclusions about the birth mother
- Don't tell us we're sure to have our "own" now
- Want to know more about her birth country?
- China
- Russia
- The Republic of Guatemala
- The Republic of Korea
- Ukraine
- The Republic of Kazakhstan
- Socialist Republic of Vietnam
- The Republic of India
- The Republic of Colombia
- The Republic of haiti
- Appendix: resources for learning more about adoption.