The myth of the spoiled child : challenging the conventional wisdom about children and parenting
by Kohn, Alfie.
Summary
"Somehow, a set of deeply conservative assumptions about children-- what they're like and how they should be raised-- have congealed into the conventional wisdom in our society. Parents are accused of being both permissive and overprotective, unwilling to set limits and afraid to let their kids fail... Full description
- Permissive parents, coddled kids, and other reliable bogeymen
- Parenting in perspective
- Overstating overparenting
- Getting hit on the head lessons : motivation, failure, and the outrage over participation trophies
- The underlying values : conditionality, scarcity, and deprivation
- The attack on self-esteem
- Why self-discipline is overrated : a closer look at grit, marshmallows, and control from within
- Raising rebels.