Summary
Draws on the lives of some of the world's forefront writers and activists to evaluate the intimate nature of human relationships with their significant others, their work, and their inner selves, explaining the importance of balancing one's commitments to each. Full description
- Book 1. The three marriages : work, self and other.
- Some definitions
- Book 2. Love's first glimpse : looking for a mate, a job, a life.
- The classic case : love's first glimpse of love itself
- Vows made for me : falling in love with a work
- The doorless door : youth's first glimpse of the self
- Book 3. The joy of pursuit : what we think we are worthy of in this world.
- The pursuit of the first marriage : the classic case again : early stage
- Opening a tidal gate : the pursuit of a work through difficulty, doubt and distraction
- Searching for self : the pursuit that is not a pursuit
- Book 4. Engagement : the dramas and disappointments immediately prior to marriage.
- Have nothing, dare everything
- Jane Austen : despite all
- Alone in the struggle : turning to face the world
- Book 5. Living together : the art of marriage.
- The art of marriage : the disappearance, reappearance and dissolution of the self
- A sweet prison : living with the work we've chosen
- Living with the self : divorce, forgiveness and remarriage
- Not a question of balance : a marriage of marriages.