Summary
For twenty-five years, Debby Irving sensed inexplicable racial tensions in her personal and professional relationships. As a colleague and neighbor, she worried about offending people she dearly wanted to befriend. As an arts administrator, she didn't understand why her diversity efforts lacked trac... Full description
- Childhood in white : What wasn't said ; Family values ; Race versus class ; Optimism ; Within the walls
- Midlife wake-up calls : From confusion to shock ; The GI Bill ; Racial categories ; White superiority ; The melting pot ; Headwinds and tailwinds
- Why didn't I wake up sooner? : Icebergs ; Invisibility ; Zap! ; The whole story ; Logos and stereotypes
- Rethinking key concepts : My good people ; Color-blind ; My good luck ; My Robin Hood syndrome
- Twenty-five years of tossing and turning : Straddling two worlds ; Why do I always end up with white people? ; Diversity training ; Everyone is different; everyone belongs ; Belonging ; Surviving versus thriving ; Living into expectations ; I am the elephant
- Leaving my comfort zone : Intent and impact ; Feelings and the culture of niceness ; Courageous conversations ; Getting over myself ; Perception and fear
- Inner work : Becoming multicultural ; If only you'd be more like me ; The dominant white culture ; Boxes and ladders ; The rugged individual ; Equality starts with equity ; Bull in a China shop
- Outer work : From bystander to ally ; Solidarity and accountability ; From tolerance to engagement ; Listening ; Normalizing race talk
- Reclaiming my humanity : Whole again
- Tell me what to do!